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What is your Coping Dilemma?




Okay, let's talk about "The Coping Dilemma." This is a term I've coined in The Rooted Woman Collective framework that describes the internal conflict between our whole, authentic Self, and the subconscious patterns we've developed to cope with pain and overwhelm. We all have them. We all repeat them.


Which pattern or patterns do you find that you do the most?

Proving

Perfecting

Pleasing

Performing

Protecting

Pretending

Projecting

Problem-solving


While these coping strategies helped us to feel safer and more secure because of how they enabled us to maintain attachment and connection, they are the result of splitting off from our TRUE selves - our pure, innocent, carefree, magical, full of Divine Light-filled selves (all a part of your unique Sacred Signature, but more on that later).


We were once all these things until something happened. No matter how small or big, this "thing" (or series of things) caused us to go into hiding and begin to protect our Self. This is because we learned that to be fully alive, wild, brilliant, free, abundant, magical and authentic meant we got dismissed, rejected, abandoned, yelled at, abused, denied, criticized, ignored, etc.


We have to cope with that, right? Like, how do we even BE with the grief and devastation of having to fracture off from our Truest Self like that?!


Breaks my heart just presencing myself to this. For me, for you...


So, while it served us REALLY really well initially, we have all outgrown the need for the strategy and are now living our lives inside a pattern that has us believing that it's just "the way we are." And we are unsettled. Anxious. Depressed. Feeling trapped, small, longing...


THIS JUST ISN'T TRUE!!


It is NOT who you are, Sister. It's your protector, your ego, your survival strategy that has you believing this.


Here is the dilemma:

TO CONTINUE TO COPE MEANS WE ARE STILL SEEKING AN OUTDATED SENSE OF SAFETY, AND WE ABANDON OUR TRUE SELF EVERY TIME. which is painful. BUT, WE HAVE NOT YET FOUND SAFETY AND SECURITY IN BEING OUR TRUE SELF, which is painful, SO WE CONTINUE TO COPE.


Are you resonating? Are you understanding that they once kept you safe but now, they keep you small? I would LOVE to have a conversation about this and support you in transforming your pattern once and for all, on an energetic, emotional and spiritual level.

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